There I go stating the bleeding obvious in my post title. I have been thinking (and hoping) lately that I need to get myself out there and go on a date! So now I need to start some DOING !
Any date will do really, I'll take the stereotypical dinner and movie combination, or coffee, or walk in the park, drink and a band.... anything really.... I just need to get some MOJO back before its gone forever..
Any date will do really, I'll take the stereotypical dinner and movie combination, or coffee, or walk in the park, drink and a band.... anything really.... I just need to get some MOJO back before its gone forever..
You see, I can feel myself slipping into this comfortable state of oblivion and I have the feeling if I don't take some drastic action soon, I am going to be in this same position I am in 3, or 5 or 10 years time. OK so that is a little bit extreme, but after my trip I realise I need do some looking after my own life as well as Darby's.
I have always considered us as a team, but I really need to think about my own individual happiness as well and how that will only positively impact Darby's life in the long run. So I'm a girl on a (mini) mission to get a love life or at least try to! I know its not the kind of thing that you can orchestrate out of nothing and the best advice from those loved up couples out there is that "it will happen when you least expect it" but seriously I am not meeting anyone from the comfort of my cozy chair where I plonk myself every.single.night.of.the.week!
So the story goes: I have been a single woman for just over 2 years. The thought of any relationships in this time just gave me shivers, being a single parent has been enough to deal with, adding anything else would have been too much.
I would avoid any kind of interaction with males really and this has adversely affected my confidence in the dating game. I have really retreated into myself. I am shy, reserved, and hate some of the uncomfortable moments that come from dating, but there are, I am sure, the fun parts I'm missing out on too - the laughs, the debriefs of disaster dates, the nerves that make you feel giddy and more and more. I think I will take the punt that the good definitely outweigh the bad in this situation!
I would avoid any kind of interaction with males really and this has adversely affected my confidence in the dating game. I have really retreated into myself. I am shy, reserved, and hate some of the uncomfortable moments that come from dating, but there are, I am sure, the fun parts I'm missing out on too - the laughs, the debriefs of disaster dates, the nerves that make you feel giddy and more and more. I think I will take the punt that the good definitely outweigh the bad in this situation!
I do really enjoy my dates with my little man, and my former man too, catching up with friends is good, but I really feel its time that I go out with a living, breathing, preferably tall, dark and handsome man (not asking for much am I??). The problem now lies in finding a said, single, living breathing preferably tall dark and handsome (oh with personally) man around. Most men I meet are at the park with their kids, or are 19 year old Barista's making my morning coffee, or married with no single friends, where are all the single men???!?!
So in my semi desperate/semi taking the piss/ semi being serious attempt I am putting the call out, so if you have a single work colleagues, second cousins, friends of a friend of a friend who fancys a date with a relatively sane woman, let me know! I am going to keep my eye out as well and actually take some drastic action on this one!! (Will keep you posted!!)
Today I am linking up with the delightful Jess at Diary of SAHM for
Until next time, Life is too short for crappy coffee
I hope one day Mr TDH walks into your cafe and changes your life for the better! X
ReplyDeleteAww thanks... I hope so too xxx
DeleteDamn! All my male friends are either married or in long term relationships... I'm no help! Tell you what, though, the barista doesn't sound too bad at all!!! Hehe.
ReplyDeleteGood luck finding that mojo Jane, keep us posted :)
Bummer... Thats ok... I may have to go outside the square and visit more coffee shops.. (that shouldn't be a problem for me! ) a man that can make a good coffee says a lot xxx
DeleteGood on you!! It would a a scary task but I think you are up to it. Rachel x
ReplyDeleteThanks... I hope so.. I certainly will have the support along the way xx
Deleteage? I know plenty of talk and dark old aged pensioners... handsome - depends on what you are after.
ReplyDeleteWell I am open to suggestions!! Trying not to eliminate a whole market! No older than my dad - ok??? see you soon
DeleteI'm excited for you.
ReplyDeleteEven just being open to the possibility gives us a different 'aura' I think.
I hope someone pretty fabulous is just around the corner.
:-) xx
Thanks Lovely lady... its an exciting time but very daunting as well! Ill try to remember to carry my postitive aura with me wherever I go : )
DeletePre-husband when I was single I went on plentyoffish.com :) loved online dating..
ReplyDeletemy friend met her husband through online dating.. they are happy in love with 4 kids :)
Just checked out and created a profile on plentyoffish... scary but exciting!! At least a few dates may come of it!! And at least i know someone who found it worthwhile :)
DeleteGood on you. Go for it girl. There is a man out there whos thinking the same thing "where are all the single women?". And your a hot mumma so you shouldn't have a problem finding these tall dark and handsome men ;).
ReplyDeleteAww thanks lovely lady... i hope he is waiting around the corner... !! : ) xx
DeleteYou go, girl!!!
ReplyDeleteI like Yvette's suggestion. I know "someone" who met their husband through on-line dating and they ended up getting married and having twins. Hmmm...I wonder who that could be ??? :)
:-)
DeleteOh Grace we so have to catch up... we have heaps to talk about and I may need a debrief with this online dating.. i have no clue!!!!! xxxx
DeleteI WISH I knew someone I could set you up with because I think you are lovely.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely think about the internet dating. I know several people who have ended up getting married and having kids. I did it for a while back in London and for the most part really enjoyed it.
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Oh you are so sweet!! I know .. why are all the men around taken.. I don't know a single , single man out there!!
DeleteIll give the internet dating a go and see what happens.. its a start at least!
Glad you enjoyed it when you did it!
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Good for you! And there's the next year's worth of blog posts decided on too!
ReplyDeleteToo True!! Thanks for stopping by!
DeleteGood on you! I too am open to the idea, though I have only been single for about 10 months, with a bit of a fling in that time. I have done a little bit of online dating, and know of a few people who met their hubbies online, so I am kind of hoping I will find my prince charming there :)
ReplyDeleteChrissie xx
Thats great! We can try this online dating game together.. I know of so many success stories I know we should give it a shot!
DeleteGood luck too! xxx
Good luck with that search hon! I gave up and then they found me... in fact, I had them beating down the door after a while. *sigh*
ReplyDelete;) xxc
Oh Its good to know a success story and a pain you had to turn so many away ; ) !!!! m sure it will be fine.. its just taking that leap of faith and doing it! xx
DeleteOh I wish I knew someone for you. Though to be fair, if I did, they would be in Darwin and that's not going to be particularly helpful.
ReplyDeleteI'm so excited to her this next stage of the journey. You'll find someone soon; you're hot! ;)
The males I know are all married or about to. Good luck! x
ReplyDeleteI'm so excited for you! Good luck lovely xx
ReplyDeleteThanks lovely.. im sure to post about the details if and when it happens : ) xxx
DeleteI know more single women than decent single men unfortunately :( But you do have one thing on your side, you're gorgeous! So run with it, try and enjoy yourself in your quest, and write about it so we can be entertained ;-)
ReplyDeleteWell you are gorgeous, articulate and lovely! So I think that now you're open to the idea, offers will flood in. Good luck and have fun! :)
ReplyDeleteHeaps of my friends have met their long term partners online - give it a go! How exciting to be going on this next part of your journey :)
ReplyDeleteHey Jane. So glad I found you!
ReplyDeleteI am in the same boat. Single mum with a 3.5 yo son and it has been way too long between drinks... I mean men!
After three years off the scene (yes, that is right, THREE WHOLE YEARS!) I did the online dating thing last year. Went out with a nice bloke for about three months but he wasn't the one.
I had a few disaster dates earlier this year from guys I met on RSVP and one from eHarmony. I've been a bit scared to get back on the horse since!
Haven't heard of plenty of fish so I'm going to check that one out.
Good luck with your search! Looking forward to reading more of your blog.
V.