Completing this list was something I really felt I needed to do.
Um yes, this is quite a tricky exercise for someone whose self esteem is non existent.
I have had alot of negative self talk cluttering my head space for for as long as I can remember, its always there, but at the moment it is working in overdrive! I really feel as though these negative thoughts are taking over and stopping me from being the best I can be, so this challenge has come at exactly the right time.
My stomachs too fat, I need to lose 15kgs, I'm not smart enough, I wish I could speak up more, I wish I didn't put so much makeup on, I wished I looked good enough without make up, I wish I was a better mother, I wish I didnt get frustrated so easily. OK ok you probably get the drift that I am not too comfortable in my own skin, but this post isn't about that. Its about the good stuff, no matter how hard it is to put on paper, I want it to be a list I come back to, to give me inspiration when my head goes to that place and the negative thoughts start flooding in.
So deep breath, here goes!
❤ I am great at picking a cafe to go for coffee! I could pick a place in most suburbs in Melbourne!
❤ I have very blue eyes, inherited from my dad. They are my best feature
❤ I have very blue eyes, inherited from my dad. They are my best feature
❤ I'm not embarrassed that I love Pineapple and Anchovies on my pizza
❤ I love how my body has adapted to life with a prosthetic hip
❤ I love with my whole heart, no apologies
❤ I acknowledge all the positive aspects in single parenting
❤ I make decisions based on my heart, even if they mean changing my life and sacrificing everything
❤ I have a strong body that has withheld so much pain in its short life
❤ I love cuddles and kisses with my little man
❤ I always say I love you before bedtime
❤ I look good as a blonde (even though it's from a bottle!)
❤ I love to frock up, drink french champagne and dance to 80's music
❤ I love celebrations of any kind; going to and planning them.
❤ I can share a joke with my former partner and genuinely laugh
❤ I am resilient, knock me down and I will get right back up again
❤ I am independent and comfortable enough to travel to the other side of the world without my little sidekick
❤ I am a good listener, and offer great advice
❤ I am a fabulous innovative baker of sweet goods
❤ I am positive about life and the future
❤ I am an emotional person and proud to wear my heart on my sleeve
❤ I am intuitive, I watch people and I think I have a good idea of how people are feeling
❤ I am empathetic and offer support where I can
❤ I am proud of myself, my family and friends
❤ I am loyal till the end
❤ I love my laugh lines, it means I have had many happy times in my life so far
❤ I am incredibly sensitive, (this can be a downfall- but I'm looking at the positives here!!)
❤ I love being a mum, it completes me.
❤ I am constantly changing and slowly becoming a little more comfortable with my self
❤ I love the art of giving and seeing happiness on the faces of others
❤ I know that one day I will find my silver lining, but in my heart I know I have all that I ever need right now.
❤ I am a good listener, and offer great advice
❤ I am a fabulous innovative baker of sweet goods
❤ I am positive about life and the future
❤ I am an emotional person and proud to wear my heart on my sleeve
❤ I am intuitive, I watch people and I think I have a good idea of how people are feeling
❤ I am empathetic and offer support where I can
❤ I am proud of myself, my family and friends
❤ I am loyal till the end
❤ I love my laugh lines, it means I have had many happy times in my life so far
❤ I am incredibly sensitive, (this can be a downfall- but I'm looking at the positives here!!)
❤ I love being a mum, it completes me.
❤ I am constantly changing and slowly becoming a little more comfortable with my self
❤ I love the art of giving and seeing happiness on the faces of others
❤ I know that one day I will find my silver lining, but in my heart I know I have all that I ever need right now.
You're awesome Jane. xxxx
ReplyDeleteOh thanks hon xxx
DeleteFantastic!
ReplyDeleteI'm confident there's 30 more if you put your mind to it.
:-) xx
Oh thanks Shar.. It makes me want to write another 30 just to see If I could get there : ) xxxx
DeleteI love that you embrace your emotionality and make decisions from the heart. The negative stuff is just superficial anyway. You are fabulous just the way you are. xx
ReplyDeleteThanks hon, Yeah you are soo right all the stuff I worry about is the superficial stuff, the stuff I wouldn't change is the stuff inside! xxxx
DeleteI can always tell you love being a mum! and the other 29 points are all true too. I'd print them off for the wall somewhere where you'll be reminded of them each day. Just fabulous x
ReplyDeleteThanks Pip.. I have printed them off and stuck them on my fridge!! A reminder everyday xx
DeleteWonderful list Jane!
ReplyDeleteI'm a negative thinker about myself too, a lot! I will definitely be putting my list somewhere where I can see it when I need to be reminded!
It sounds like you've been through a lot, but you also sound like a very strong person. Definitely resilient! Good on you! :)
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Thanks Tracey - its definitely hard to get out of that negative mindset isn't it??
DeleteBut Its also good to look at what you have achieved etc, thanks for stopping by
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Great list Jane - it shows what a wonderful woman and mother you are!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Deb, that means alot xxxx
DeleteAwesome list Jane. I love pineapple and anchovies. You look great as a blonde! Motherhood also completes me and yes resilience is certainly a great trait to carry in the handbag of our souls.
ReplyDeleteOh we would get along soo well!! Or at least share a pizza : )
DeleteIt was such a great exercise to do, it really is something I will reflect on!
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Hi Jane! Just popping in to say hi from your latest Instagram friend, Anne @ Domesblissity. (PS I'm a single Mum too.)
ReplyDeleteAnne xx
Thanks Anne for stopping by, you are gorgeous!!
DeleteI didnt know you were a single mum, im sure we would have lots to talk about : ) xxx
You rock!! Good on you for coming up with this awesome and very real list. This is such a great process. I wish I had the guts to do it!
ReplyDeletePS. I'm intrigued by this talent of innovative sweet good baking. Wish I lived closer!! ;)
Oh Nee.. thanks! You should so do it! Once you get going you get on a role, and you really do feel more positive about things!!
DeleteIm a good baker of sweets, but I try and make everything healthy so I make up all these recipes of things like - brownies and use healthy alternatives... or choc vegie muffins (that have cauliflower, broccoli, carrot and beetroot) but taste like chocolate!!
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I'm like you. My self-esteem is non-existent most time. Doing this list the first time was extremely hard. Even now when I read it, if feels as if it applies to someone else. Not that any of it is not true, it's just kind of hard to believe that those things have any value.
ReplyDeleteThank you for joining me in this challenge. I hope it was a positive experience for you :-)
And that is just 30 of the many more reason why I and everyone else who has the pleasure of knowing you know how fabulous you are hun xx
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